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The Secret to Freeing One’s Mind
One thing Sister Jenanah, as everyone calls her, has learned by working in a prison for over thirteen years, is that there are worse things than being physically imprisoned. When she first went to work as a Chaplain, it was with the idea that she would stay there for no more than five years, teach the women their religion and how utilize it on the outside to create a better way of life. over eight years past the five years she gave herself, watching numerous women go home, only to return, again and again; she determined that physical incarcerated is just a symptom, the real imprisonment is, imprisonment of the mind. Why do human beings who are subjected to some of the most demoralizing treatment come back, for more? On the other hand there were those woman who, mostly serving a hefty sentence; spent their time internalizing their lessons and preparing for the outside world. Once they were released they forged ahead and have been a shining example that the public do not read about because it is not sensational news for the media. Sister Jenanah has witnessed women who have spent over half their lives incarcerated; it is obvious to the observing eye that they are at home in prison. They go on vacation in the outer world and then come back home. Their minds are imprisoned, mostly due to mental, physical, and emotional abuse; some of it self imposed. However, also witnessed are women who spend their incarcerated time in school earning their degrees, AAS, BS, in some cases Master Degrees. They interacted with distinguished professors who volunteer their time to come and educate the women. When the women go home some go to work for the colleges they attended while incarcerated. The degrees they have earned do not state the facility they were in, but the university they attended. These women worked on themselves, many of them avid attendants of their religious organization, be it Islamic, Christian, Jewish, or other. They were physically incarcerated yet their mind and spirit was free. As one woman put it, they made a conscious decision to not go back to prison, and acted on that decision. They lived with purpose. Sr. Jenanah began to wonder; “How many of us, in the free world live with purpose? Are we seizing the opportunities life presents to us and forging ahead towards success? Do we take a seemingly bad situation and make the best out of it, or do we succumb to it and live lives of quiet desperation? How many of us are imprisoned in a mental rut, some of us going on vacation by reading a motivating book or attending a self improvement seminar; only to return home to our prison, our comfort zone?” She decided that she wanted to be one of the few who chose to seize the moment, and began searching for ways to improve her concept of self, her financial situation, and her zip code. Time continued to pass, and sister Jenanah realized that she had to “move right now” to begin to realize her dreams; those dreams that had become stagnate. So she began to search; and you would not believe what she found. In order to free one’s mind, a constant dose of positive, self help and improvement books must be read or listened to. And here is the biggest secret; they must be acted upon. Send her an e-mail for a list of the books you must begin with jenanah101@gmail.com, she wants to share, because she says, that is how she will continue to grow, by helping others, for she discovered that she went into the prison to teach, but she herself was taught, a very valuable lesson; mental freedom. Jenanah W Amatullah-Muqsit has been a Chaplain with the NYS Dept. of Correctional Services for over thirteen years. She is also an entrepreneur and real estate broker. Mrs. A-Muqsit is married, a mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. She is presently attending Phoenix University On-Line School, pursueing a BS. in Organizational and Security Management. After completion she intends to earn a Master of Science Degree in Internet Marketing.One Tree Hill
Continue Reading »The SECRETS to ONLINE DATING: ONLINE DATING PICS
The first key is to convey to someone, “Yes, I can actually talk to this person!” and one of the best ways to do that is with a genuine smile. It is a winner because it is the easiest and most popular way of creating an emotional trigger with the person looking at it. Start your online dating pics off with a genuine smile. The second key is to be smiling somewhere that matters. You need to convey this message: “I am fun to be around!! “What do you do for fun? Where do you love to go? Answer those and go show it! Go to your favorite places and take some shots of you enjoying it with a genuine smile. Women love looking at pics and are drawn to people that can be real and they can connect with. A pic of a dynamic person doing something they love while smiling gets far more hits than any other photo online! The pic should show you have your own unique value and that you can add social value to the people responding to your profile & posts. It’s also cool if other people are in the photo with you. You should be out enjoying all this with the people you enjoy doing it with. You might have some of these pics already. They get huge hits. Have a couple of solo shots and have some pics of you with friends of all genders. One thing’s for sure; if you convey the right message you’ll get more responses! If you have a one-on-one pic with you and a female give a caption to who she is. Some women naturally assume you’re a “player” if you have a lot of girls in your pics. Lastly, there is a great FREE tool I use and so can you, to make sure that you are on the right track. It’s www.hotornot.com. It allows other people to rate your pic on a sliding scale. It is a FREE valuable service and is probably the best way of selecting pics to post on your online dating sites. You can try putting in some old pics in with the new ones and see which ones get better results. This is a really valuable tool to have when choosing your online pics. I don’t necessarily recommend signing up to chat with women on that site unless you have picked up a copy of “The Recipe: Everything You Need to Know to Get Women Online” and have gone through the book thoroughly and learned the secrets to become a successful online dater. It is a necessary resource for any man in the online dating world. If you don’t have a copy I highly recommend getting one. So, go throw on your best look, put on a big smile and go do something fun that you love to do! Snap off a few pics, pick out a few and go post them on hotornot.com. While you’re waiting for the results to come in, go pick up a copy of “The Recipe”. When the results are in, you can use the best pics and then use the systems you learn in the book to get a ton of responses and you’ll be attracting more quality women online guaranteed! Renowned online dating expert, AT, is the founder and CEO of www.super-dater.com. His book “The Recipe” has become a favorite in the online dating community. To get your copy plus a FREE copy of the E-Book “The 10 Dating MYTHS Men Fall Victim To” & a BONUS dating gift CLICK HERE
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Continue Reading »For Women Only: a Womanâs Guide to Success on Command
In 1982, I, too, was struggling with two jobs and a household to run; I was also a schoolteacher. My idea of extravagance was going on one âniceâ hotel vacation a year, and I always hoped that we would pick a good hotel, etc., so it would be really worth all the sacrifices that it was costing. I almost never got a massage or pedicure. After justifying the expenditure, I bought a half day of household help per week during the school year. I did my own laundry, grocery shopping, landscaping, and pool service. I had, by most average American standards, a âniceâ home and a livable lifestyle, but it was NOT the lifestyle of the rich and famous. That was until Network Marketing created so much wealth for us that our only recourse was to spend it.
The year was 1995. That was the year we bought our estate, filled our lake with dozens of ducks, geese, and swans. We saw so much money accumulating that we made plans for, and then built, another palatial lakeside home in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, got our irreplaceable full-time cook — picture yourself sitting by the crackling fireplace in the winter while your maid fetches your morning paper, slides a steaming cup of freshly ground coffee in your hand, and takes your breakfast order.
Itâs all come true for me because I had a dream. First, I created a mentor relationship with some industry experts. I subsequently developed a plan. I have learned a secret about networking that virtually insures my success on command. Itâs a secret that can change your life, too.
I want to share with you what I know. If you will study these âguidelinesâ and follow them to the letter, you too can write your own ticket to success in MLM. I call these my 10 steps to becoming 10 feet tall and bulletproof in MLM today:
(1) Choose a company that has been in business at least two years and one that âhas its act together,â as opposed to one that just has âgreat products.â In truth, almost all companies that survive have great products, but great products donât sell themselves. Great promotions are what sell, PERIOD!!
(2) Choose a sponsor like a marriage partner. This is your most important link to the MLM brass ring. Sponsor yourself under the âwrongâ person and your upline could erode your business and fail to give much needed constructive coaching, which enables you to make vital on-course corrections. No great athlete functions without a coach and few great MLMers do either;
(3) Become a multi-task specialist. Most women already are, so you likely already possess the supreme qualifications here. A multi-task specialist is someone who handles several tasks simultaneously and does a great job on all. As a working woman, a mother, a cook, a chauffeur, a phone operator, and an emergency room technician, you have probably already earned your stripes here. Most women have . . . and most men have not. This talent alone makes you a definite MLM superstar candidate;
(4) Spend a minimum of 20 minutes per day in âguidedâ personal development work. By that I mean, personal development books, tapes, exercises or seminars that are recommended by your mentor to help you overcome any self-sabotaging tendencies you may have and to keep you positively oriented;
(5) Develop new habits. You need to set-up a 21 day system which will lock in your financial production;
(6) Create your âname listâ of at least 200 people you have met from all walks of life or fewer if you donât want to earn as much. Ask your mentor for some help if you get stuck here;
(7) Recognize the major differences between how men approach MLM vs. how women approach it. You will almost never be successful giving them the same business opportunity presentation;
(8) Be coachable when you see your plan for financial freedom developing, and be coachable when things donât work. I believe that anyone can be led into seeing that âbrass ringâ and ârainbowâs endâ in the industry, anyone that is, who will listen to, and follow, a simple 1-2-3 step process;
(9) Realize that your family, friends, co-workers, and environment will surely try to sabotage you the minute you begin to be successful in creating your home-based empire. A careful coaching program can prevent you from self-destructing when a spouse, parent, or other person thinks you are crazy . . . or worse yet, runs you down for believing in yourself;
(10) Since you can start nearly any home-based business for just a few hundred dollars in supplies, training and products, there is no reason for you to do more industry study before getting started. The worst thing that can happen, if you join in a company today and it ultimately doesnât make it, is that you would learn a lot and earn nothing or very little. When you think about it, thatâs better odds than enrolling in college where you will learn who knows what to prepare you for something that may not exist by the time you have completed your degree and will cost you thousands, if not tens of thousands, whether it can lead to a career or not. If you donât believe me here, ask your doctor (whoâs probably working twice as hard for half the money he earned 5 years ago, the victim of managed health care). His career in medicine is certainly not what it used to be before all the HMOâs took over the health industry.
I personally have spent tens of thousands on college and have degrees in English, Home Economics, and Sociology, with a Masters in Counseling and education. It pains me to report that my highest income in my chosen profession was less than $40,000.00 a year after 18 years of practice and all the merit advancements.
I now make more than twice that amount each month. I did not know such earning potential really existed for me, and I certainly didnât know that all that advanced education — would be a hindrance to my MLM success, because I would try too hard to âfigure everything outâ my first few years and never make any money (although I collected a lot of information and tips from other distributors). I call that âthe blind leading the blind.â
Be smarter than I was. Recognize that you, as a woman, (an estimated 70% of networkers are women), will be starting on level playing field with every other beginner, every other expert and talented person . . . and, armed with these insights, you will have the greatest inside knowledge of how to make it work. Therefore, you will be a guaranteed superstar if you donât give up too soon or deviate from these guidelines.
There is nothing — NOTHING — you cannot achieve if you team up with people who have a proven track record and commit to being undaunted by failure.
This little school teacher from Escalon, California has learned that about the only way you could âmess upâ with this plan is to make it harder than it is supposed to be by complicating it with the addition of more steps. You deserve to create that life you love. You deserve to be pampered and to spend quality time with your family. You deserve to set your own schedule. You have never seen a better time to enter network marketing than right now — TODAY. You can have it all just like I do! Let network marketing open up these possibilities for you, and I promise you will never be the same again! For More Article Visit :: http://www.thearticleinsiders.com/Tarot Readings online by an experienced Psychic
Continue Reading »Success – How to Make It Happen Now!
Down in your luck? Finding success elusive? You can have success in almost any situation you wish. You can make it happen. Success is no more than a state of mind turned into reality.
How do you actually achieve success and turn your goals into reality lets find out.
What Is Success?
Success is obviously a subjective issue. For one person success is one thing, for another, another. However, if you have some realistic view of any situation, and a clear goal you can find success.
Setting Goals
If you goal is to fly to the moon, obviously you are outside the sphere of realistic goal setting.
Set your goals at first in areas that are achievable. For example, getting a better job, finding a new partner, better friends, or simply making more money, set your goal and a time for it so you have conceivable limits
With set goals, with time constraints, you have now had to work silently and steadily in the direction of the goal. If you mind is set, and clear, you will come nearer and nearer the goal, and will soon achieve it. This is one of life’s lesser known secrets.
Begin with small easy Victories
In your search for success, start with some easy victories. It gets you in the winning and successful frame of mind.
Pick something that is easily achievable but needing doing.
Do it, succeed, and then move on to something more difficult. Step by step you will become in the success frame of mind.
Where there is mind set for victory and success the battle is half won from the beginning. If you think you can’t do something, the answer is already evident. You can’t and you won’t.
Success needs the mind set of “I can do it. I will do it. I will succeed, no matter what it takes, I will succeed”
Repeat this words to yourself constantly. Remind yourself you are success bound, and you will be.
Success and Obstacles to Its Achievement
Obstacles can be changed to stepping stones. If you think of the obstacles as insurmountable, it will be. Use them as stepping stones and you will move closer to your goal.
You may need to be more disciplined, or more cautious. Be so, and use the obstacle as a tool for success, not a barrier from it.
Move on
As the smaller victories are achieved, choose more challenging ones. Keep to reality but aim higher. Armed with your earlier victories and a success frame of mind, you will approach the new goals with a better chance of success.
Do not give up or stop mid-way. If its success you wish, you must persevere. Without perseverance, and tenacity, you will find the road to success insurmountable. Develop your staying power. Move on from one point to the other, keeping your goals in mind. You cannot do other than to achieve.
Managing Set-Backs
Your road to success will have set-backs. These must not stop your progress. Go around them, take them in stride, but do not stop. If a carpenter breaks a nail he does not stop building.
It was a set-back, but there is a new nail, and renewed effort to keep going .Manage your set-backs. Limit their damage and move on.
Success is Yours
If you really wish to be successful and follow the guidance above, you will be. It’s a fact of life. Never give up if its success you wish.
Look to those great men and women that became successful. Their lives are models for you, and you will see they never gave up. For more free info on how to achieve achieving success and other apsects of self improvement and leading a better more fulfilling life visit our website for downloads, features and articles at http://www.net-planet.org/index.htmlairline seat sale to the Philippines
The Secret to Success: Embracing your Current Circumstances With Joy
If I continue to resist my current situation rather than deal with it, I am like a child who gets a piece of candy only to throw it away because it wasn’t exactly the kind of candy I wanted. Keep in mind that I’m not advocating complacency; no, I should improve myself and the world around me wherever possible. But now that I am in Christ, I have run out of excuses to be anything less than joyful and content, regardless of my circumstances. If I embrace the unconditional joy of Christ, I can desire better things and yet exist joyfully in the mean time.
As a rule, it is foolish to dwell on how much I hate my present circumstances. My relational health, for example, will suffer if I continually brood. But I will encourage and empower others around me if I rejoice in my current situation in life, not by way of denial, but by choosing joy over bitterness and discontent.
What prevents men from success in their dating endeavors? Is it their looks? No, men tend to be unattractive in any case. It is something within men that prevents them from succeeding in their pursuits of the opposite sex. Any man who is unconditionally joyful and confident in Christ will be manifestly attractive to the kind of women he wants to attract.
Women will succeed similarly in their relationships if their minds are saturated with commonsense of Christ. Not only is this healthy for women, such confidence will drive away the wrong kind of men and attract the right ones.
As for our working lives, if we take joy in our situation despite our self-defeating insecurities, we will excel at whatever we do. We will work unhindered and thereby facilitate any advancement (if God should provide such an opportunity). In the mean time, even if we never advance in a worldly sense, we will remain no less joyful and content. Such is the genius of depending on God, who is set apart form this world.
The secret to true success is to depend on Jesus Christ. We tend to shy away from this truth because we would rather hoard all the credit we can get. But this desire is self-defeating. The desire to be validated by other people is shallow and insecure at is core. But again, such is the genius of depending on Jesus Christ: In Him all such hindrances are crucified forever.
Forget yourself. Forget about taking credit. Give up yourself because there is nothing good in you. Christ is utterly good. Let Him be your good, then you will have good. Let Christ be your success, then you will be successful.
by Patrick Robertswww.BooksByPatrick.com Patrick is an average Christ-seeker. His goal is to turn people to Jesus Christ.Logo Design
Continue Reading »Secrets of Success: Top 10 Beliefs For The Bottom 90%
Successful people use empowering beliefs all the time and their beliefs carry something in common, even though some may seem flawed at times. (I know someone who says this to himself every day, ‘Man! I’m so sexy, I’ll attract men and women both the same’)
However, if you look carefully at their beliefs, you will realise that all of them use words that put them in control. Most importantly, they are specific.
Conversely, you can derive a pattern from not-so-successful people’s daily dosage of self-affirmed beliefs. You can identify them quite easily. Let us take a look at the tell-tale features of those not-so-useful beliefs:
For example, ‘my manager does not do his job’ and ‘Mr Johnson’s classes are a waste of time’ or ‘I can never understand that’. Pretty depressing statements, don’t you think?
The above examples contain three big ‘No-No’s’ for any beliefs, like all limiting beliefs.
These beliefs leave you feeling powerless and without control. Notice how the manager and Mr Johnson are made to seem that they are in control of the situation instead of the protagonist. Notice the absence of words such as ‘I am’, ‘I can’ or ‘I must’? Use these powerful words more often to take control of your life.
Those beliefs are too brief. Can you tell what is the manager doing wrong or how is Mr Johnson conducting his class? Be specific! If those beliefs are more specific, it is easier to identify any flaws and correct them.
Those beliefs are self-limiting and these are the worst of their kind! By putting yourself down with words such as ‘I can never understand that’, you are not just surrendering your control, but also sabotaging your potential for improvement. You will resign to your fate and shut your mind towards better opportunities for growth.
Now let us examine some of the top ten most common limiting beliefs and how to counter them. If you realise you have more than two of them, perhaps it is time to re-examine your life.
1. I am too young/old now.
- I’m young and vigorous. This is my advantage and I can do everything in the world.
- I’ve seen the world and possess invaluable experiences. This is my advantage and I can handle whatever comes my way.
2. Work will always be there, I’ll start on it tomorrow. (Procrastination)
- I must set aside a specified amount of time every day and focus 100% within that specified amount of time.
3. I’ll probably just fail anyway, why waste my effort?
- I am capable of learning everything about this new field. I must ask the relevant people and consult the relevant sources when in doubt and always stay focused on what works!
4. If my idea is so fantastic, someone else has probably thought about it and used it.
- Speed is the only protection for my ideas, I must act on it quickly and fully before anyone else does it better than me.
5. My family/friends have invested too much in me; I should not change my decisions now, it will disappoint them too much.
- I am blessed to have supportive family/friends, but I must let them understand my stand and do my best to prove to them that I’m right.
6. My schoolmate/colleague is a genius, there is no way I can ever surpass them. Since I can’t, I might as well give up now.
- I am lucky to have someone to show the standard. I will learn from her and persevere.
7. If life is so fair, why do roses have thorns? I am utterly worthless.
- I have my own undiscovered potential and I must try out everything life has to offer. I will find my innate strength!
8. My preparation is not perfect, the timing is wrong; I should wait a little longer before I start.
- I must start today to work towards being successful, and not wait till I’m successful to start (waiting to be successful to start is a catch-22 anyway).
9. Paris Hilton should be jailed for two months and Beckham should venture into table tennis!
- I must mind my own business and focus on my priorities.
10. I am unworthy of owning/doing/undertaking/being this.
- I have all it takes to own/do/undertake/be this and others recognize it. I will prove that their trust is placed in the right person.
Remember the following words of wisdom:
If life gives you durians, make durian cakes! If your boss gives you headaches, take aspirin (or some alternative ‘organic’ treatment of choice) and then sell your supply of aspirin to your similarly headache-ridden colleagues. If you give yourself poor beliefs, change them, one at a time. Mohamad Latiff is the Author of Ultimate Secrets of Success
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THE SECRETS BEHIND SUCCESSFUL ENTREPRENEURSHIP
Research has shown that people who depend solely on their salaries end up frustrated later in life after their retirement. This calls for radical measures by every person who has a pay check every month. However, starting a business is not an overnight decision. There are very many factors to consider before engaging in any business venture. Of all the factors that one should consider, the most important is to know which business you would like to engage in. Other factors include: location, proximity to customers and suppliers, government regulations and the possibility of business expansion.If you intend to begin any business, you should ask yourself why some entrepreneurs succeed in every business they begin while others fail even before they begin. There is only one secret behind success in business, and that is to know where to invest. If you make a wrong investment decision, it does not matter how right you choose the other factors. The fact is that you have already failed.To succeed in business, you need to identify a need in your society. I need to take you back to your elementary studies. I want you to understand that there are three basic needs;” Food” Shelter “ ClothingThis is where you must begin. Research has shown that the richest people on earth are in one way or another involved in hotel (food) business. Think about the richest in your area, does he or she own a hotel, or a partner in one?Investing in real estates (shelter) is one of the best investments you can ever make. This is because you are assured of a constant inflow of cash every month. Think of the next richest person in your locality and see whether he or she has invested in real estate.Fashion changes on daily basis. Women want to put on new hair styles, jewellery and clothing, while men on he other side are nowadays turning stylish. You need to think about investing in the fashion (clothing) world.You have to realize that no matter the economic status people must eat, wear clothes and live in houses. So go on and invest in any of the three. Click Here!
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3 Secrets To Success
Have you ever wondered what sets the “Bill Gates” apart from the average Joe Shmow? I have. And that’s why I spent literally hundreds of hours researching the answer.What I discovered was really pretty simple. I discovered the true secrets to success … the same secrets that the wealthiest and most successful men and women have known for a hundred years.There are few people of average intelligence or above that do not wish for success in their life. What many of these people do not understand however; is that all the “wishing” in the world will not bring success. They stand idly by waiting for their ship to come in. For some, by pure luck, it does: lottery winnings, inheritance or mysterious windfalls.For the rest of us, once discovered and implemented, we can see great success come to fruition in our lives. Surprisingly, it’s actually quite simple. Are you ready? Shelly is a speaker and teacher locally and abroad. Shelly uses humor and poignant details as she shares some of her life experiences along with sound biblical truth while revealing the hope and healing that only God can give. Her deepest desire is to be used by God to impact the lives of women by not just having their heart’s stirred, but changed, so that they may in turn have an eternal impact on others.
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Continue Reading »Keep your Dreams on Track! Strategies for Women & Girls (and Fellas)
I recently appeared as a guest on Soulfully Speaking, a radio show for women and girls hosted by Dr. Anita Davis-Defoe. We had an interesting and deep conversation about staying motivated and on track with our goals, preventing our dreams from ending up in our back pocket, and not letting fear, confusion and everyday responsibilities derail us from our purpose. We also talked about how to help connect young women-to-be with higher aspirations than the media and society may “inspire” in them. While the show addresses women and girls, the issues and strategies we discussed were universal. A partial transcript follows.Dr. Defoe: If you’re just tuning in, my first guest this evening is Dr. Antonia Martinez who’s a Destiny Coach. And she’s been giving us all some insights and some words of wisdom as we earnestly pursue our dreams and our passions. 2008 has been designated the year of fulfillment. But it’s up to us to chose to claim it and to do the work necessary so that the passion and the dream of our heart, (can be brought) to fruition. You know, Dr. Martinez, you brought up another key issue that I was going to raise, and that’s the whole thing of fear. You have the naysayers saying one thing, and then this whole thing of fear paralyzing us–particularly women. I know because I’ve been a victim of it myself where you allow fear to just grip you. And even though your spirit is telling you to do one thing, you let fear paralyze you, and you end up not making any movement.Dr. M: When you feel that fear…(it’s) really an indication of what you need to learn, what you need to master….So turn your fear into a path of self-improvement. The second thing I would say about the fear is that if your fear is coming from self-doubt, you don’t want to distract yourself by saying “I can’t move until I’m totally confident and believe in myself 100%. If you think of babies when they’re learning how to walk, they keep falling…getting (back) up, (and taking the next) step. So yes, you may be afraid and yes, you may be in the process of learning how to deal with that, but in the meantime keep getting up. Keep taking the next step. Because as long as you keep putting one foot in front of the other, whether you’re afraid or not, you’ll get to the other side. And that’s what you need to focus on when you’re afraid. Focus on getting to the other side.Dr. Defoe: You raise such an interesting point. Because when you think about it, as adults, we’ve been knocked down a couple times…and we so take that to heart. In thinking about the example you gave, children are still very fearless. They think they can do anything. They’re willing to explore. More of us need to tap into the childlike wonder that you just described…The vast majority of us don’t honor our dreams. We go through the motions. So often, when we transition into eternal life, our gifts and talents–that magic that we were supposed to do to uplift the planet–we end up taking back with us because for so many reasons, we don’t tap in and we don’t get on the divine path that we’re supposed to be on…With women, and we’re seeing it more and more with young girls, there’s a state of confusion, buying into stereotypes, and putting destiny and aspirations to the side. What would you say to women–particularly as we’re starting the new year–who find themselves struggling? What kind of self reflections should they be doing, particularly if they have daughters, to refocus their mindset and start to get on track?Dr. M: I think (one) problem is that you get all of these different ideas (and images); you hear all these different tips and strategies from different people. And different things work for different people. So you as an individual have to understand what your power is, how to use it, how it may be off-balance and how to get that back in balance so that you can move forward…What you need is to get in touch with what’s going on in your heart. What is your heart calling you to do? It’s so easy to get brainwashed almost into thinking (your ideas and dreams) are silly because of what (friends, family or the media) are telling you. If you let your heart be your guide, you have an easier time drawing the line between the real you and the false persona that society creates for you. Especially for women with children, connecting to your heart is not only important for bringing you to your destiny but strengthening that bond between you. That opens up a whole new dimension of interaction between you…Dr. Defoe: …You’ve hit on such an important struggle for us all. We may have the goals. We may have the dreams. We might even commit to paper something that we’re going to do to make it happen. And the first time that we hit a roadblock or something is amiss, we give it up or we get derailed. And I find so many people struggle with that, from the professional coach to someone who is not even trained in coaching. We all struggle with that same issue.Dr. M: …When you make that initial breakthrough, no matter what it is, the breakthrough is really just the starting point. A lot of people think the breakthrough is it. “Yeah, I made my breakthrough. I’m there.” …there are actually eight other phases that you go through to kind of solidify that, and I talk about those in the Breakthrough Kit (www.BreakthroughKit.com). But let me tell you that the next step you have to take after you make the initial breakthrough is to ground the energy. Remember, when you’re making a breakthrough, this is all new to you. This is totally different than whatever energy you were in before. Now you have to grow roots so that you can steady yourself and become stable.Dr. Defoe: (In) the hectic, stressful world that we live in–the juggling–it’s so easy to get off track. It doesn’t matter what your dream is or how experienced you are in dream building. You and I both know time goes so quickly. And before you know it, you’ve frittered away two or three months and haven’t made one positive step. Leave the listening audience with one tip, one action they need to take tonight or in the morning.Dr. M: Determine what your primary goal is this year and set dates for when you’re going to make milestone achievements toward that goal. Write it down. Don’t just leave your dream flapping in the wind.
You can listen to the interview online at www.HealingSpirit.com/journal. Please share this with someone who can be served by it. Need help applying these strategies to your life? Take a private workshop with Dr. M. or get 30 days of unlimited online coaching. Dr. Antonia M is a Destiny Coach, Source Work Healer, and Master Metaphysician. She specializes in transformational and purpose-centered counseling, healing and life-building for adults and youth. She is the author of The Self Mastery & Fulfillment Workbook, and creator of the Breakthrough Kit & Kaboodle. Learn more and subscribe to her free newsletter at www.HealingSpirit.com. burn the fat reviewed
Womenâs Success: are you Getting the Message?
Your heart is always trying to tell you something. In fact, your heart contains some of the greatest personalized wisdom available. The problem is most of us are not all that willing to listen. Somehow in the rush of every day life, we have become inconvenient. We have banished our hearts to the bottom of our priority list and run off to pursue our list of endless toil.
Ouch, what a blow to our hearts! No wonder so many women are dissatisfied and lack a sense of meaning and purpose. When we devalue our hearts, how can we feel important or even trust what our heart has to say in the first place?
It may sound dramatic, but the truth is countless women have put their hearts in prison without a voice. What a mistake we have made! Many women are unaware their heart has words to say at all. However, your heart has a message which tells you what is missing in your life and gives you clues on how to succeed.
* The Secret *
The secret is in listening to what your heart is trying to say. This is not something to be feared. It is your goldmine of information leading to success. Your heartâs desires hold the key to your full potential. How can you begin to find true success if you do not listen to the part of you who holds the map to get you there?
* Silence Speaks *
Stillness is not a luxury. It is a necessity. When you choose to provide a time of silence, your heart will speak. At first, your inner voice may be hard to hear, but be assured it is there. With daily practice, it will get louder and louder.
Just for a few minutes, sit in a quiet place where there are few distractions. Take a few deep slow breaths and give yourself permission to let go of everything that has been happening in your life. The rest of the world will keep for a few minutes while you take time to prioritize you.
Now begin to be aware of how you are feeling. Ask your heart what it has been trying to say to you. Donât be afraid of sadness or fear, give your heart permission to speak. You do not have to stay in the emotion after, you just need to know what it is so you can do something about it.
* Getting The Message *
The message is in the feeling. When you are sure of a feeling, look at what you can do to feed your heart in that area. For example, if you are tired, make a decision to find ways to rejuvenate. If you are buried under a pile of mundane activities, look at what you can add to your life to inspire or energize you. If you feel your talents are being wasted, make a commitment to begin using them. You get the picture.
* Personal Empowerment *
It is empowering to recognize we can use the message of our hearts to attain personal success. Meaning and purpose come forward as you begin to honour and express the desires in your heart. Your heart will tell you what you really love to do. You can then use that passion to move forward in succeeding at what youâve always wanted to do.
You see, your heart has a powerful message to propel you towards success. Isnât it time you listened?
Copyright 2007 Tami M. Szabo
You may use this article on the internet only if you leave this author information complete with an active link: Life Coach Tami Szabo specializes in Personal Success Coaching for Women who want to create a life of passion and purpose at home and at work. Get Free Success Tips for Women on her website at http://www.destinysdoorcoaching.com Life Coach Tami Szabo specializes in Personal Success Coaching for Women who want to create a life of passion and purpose at home and at work. Get Free Success Tips for Women on her website at http://www.destinysdoorcoaching.comBest Smartphone Software
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